How happy is the person who has someone to offload his/her heart to?
If you ask me, one of the most beneficial gift is a friend who can listen to your rants about your day and just nod along.
The Challenge of Finding Listeners
Not a whole lot of people are able to listen.
Don’t take it the wrong way but there is not a lot of room for listening to other people talk about their day or sharing their problems.
in todays world, of hustle & bustle, no one has time to sit down and listen to rants.
Maybe rant is not the right word. Maybe I should search for a better word.
Rant gives a sense of negative thing.
I think a better statement would be to offload their feelings.
The Positive Impact of Sharing on Mental Wellbeing
When was the last time you talked your heart out to someone?
A lot of psychological issues can be avoided simply by sharing things that burden one’s heart.
Such a small thing, yet so big a benefit.
A little while ago, I tend to keep my self cordoned off.
Maybe it was because of my personal experience of sharing things with people around me.
Maybe it was because I didn’t saw how sharing feelings in words can have an uplifting impact on my mental wellbeing.
Overcoming Introversion and Rigid Outlook
I was pretty rude.
I was an introvert at that time.
With time I learned how to share in a cool way so that the other person(s) is not burdened by me.
In my own experience, when I didn’t share a lot with my confidante’s it kept me in a secluded place.
I was building stories in my own mind.
Making assumptions about things that were remotely not probable.
You catch my drift? Maybe you do so too.
That’s not the point of concern to be very honest.
Point of concern for me was the change in attitude and outlook for life.
It became rigid.
Not a lot of room for miracles( I have experienced one too many – will share down the line)
This all changed when I started sharing things with people.
It wasn’t that the people I shared things with gave a top notch advise.
It was because in the process of sharing feelings and all other things, I almost always found a way to look through the issue/situation in a positive manner.
Seems far fetched?
I bet it does.
The Secret to Offloading: Yourself
You might be wondering why I'm telling you all this.
Well, it's because I want to share with you a secret that changed my life for the better.
A secret that can help you offload your heart to someone who will always listen, understand, and support you.
A secret that can make you happier, healthier, and more fulfilled.
Are you ready to hear it?
The secret is... yourself.
Yes, you heard me right.
You are the best person to offload your heart to.
You are the best friend you can ever have.
You are the best listener, the best adviser, the best cheerleader, and the best healer.
How do I know this?
Because I learned it from my own experience.
I learned it from practicing a simple but powerful technique called self-talk.
Self-talk is the act of talking to yourself, either out loud or in your mind, in a positive and constructive way.
It's like having a conversation with your inner voice, but instead of letting it criticize, judge, or discourage you, you make it praise, encourage, and motivate you.
Self-talk can help you offload your heart to yourself by allowing you to express your feelings, thoughts, and emotions without fear of judgment or rejection.
It can help you gain clarity, perspective, and insight into your problems and solutions.
It can help you boost your self-esteem, confidence, and happiness.
Self-talk can also help you create miracles in your life by changing your mindset and attitude.
It can help you attract more positive experiences and opportunities by making you more optimistic, grateful, and hopeful.
It can help you overcome challenges and achieve your goals by making you more resilient, determined, and focused.
How to Practice Self-Talk
Self-talk can transform your life in amazing ways if you practice it regularly and consistently.
But how do you practice self-talk?
It's simple. You just need to follow these three steps:
1) Choose a time and place where you can be alone and comfortable. It can be in the morning when you wake up, in the evening before you go to bed, or any time during the day when you feel like talking to yourself.
2) Start by saying something positive and affirming to yourself. It can be something like "I am a wonderful person", "I am capable of anything", or "I am proud of myself". You can also use specific compliments or achievements that relate to your situation or goal.
3) Continue by asking yourself open-ended questions that prompt you to explore your feelings, thoughts, and emotions. It can be something like "How do I feel today?", "What do I want to accomplish today?", or "What am I grateful for today?". You can also use specific questions that relate to your problem or solution.
4) Answer yourself honestly and respectfully. Don't be afraid to express yourself fully and freely. Don't judge yourself harshly or negatively. Don't censor yourself or hold back. Just let it all out.
5) Repeat this process as often as you like until you feel satisfied, relieved, or inspired.
That's it. That's how you practice self-talk.
It may sound silly or weird at first, but trust me, it works wonders.
I've been doing it for years and it has helped me cope with stress, anxiety, depression, loneliness, anger, fear, guilt, shame, and many other negative emotions.
It has also helped me achieve my dreams, improve my relationships, enhance my health, increase my wealth, and enjoy my life.
Self-talk is the best gift I ever gave myself. And I want to share it with you.
So what do you say? Are you willing to give it a try?
If yes, then congratulations! You've just taken the first step towards a happier and more fulfilling life.
If no, then that's okay too. I respect your choice and I hope you find another way to offload your heart to someone who cares.
Either way, I want to thank you for listening to me and for sharing your story with me.
You are an amazing person and I wish you all the best.
If you are looking for someone to share your burdens with, connect with me here.
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